Goal Setting for Kids

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There is no great genius without a mixture of madness.-Aristotle

Last week we did our yearly Family Meeting in which we talk about Family and Personal goals. We talked about what goals are, how to set a specific goal and work towards it step by step, and what can help to be more successful like setting a specific time of the day and making the goal very specific. We discussed how goals should help us have good habits;  we consistently do good things until they become good habits. We also talked about how as disciples of Christ we constantly want to try to improve and each time we become better and more like Christ we have more help from Him to move forward and improve even more (Proverbs 4:18)

To make the process more visual and help the kids keep track of both their goals and progress we made up this GOAL SETTING WEEKLY STAIRS on which they could write their goals and each time they complete it for the day they move up a stair step. We had the kids choose a cartoon face of a child they thought looked like them from this Multicultural kids faces Clip-Art to use to “climb” the stairs. Elf chose one of the little Asian girls:)

 

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Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

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Generally speaking, I’m very politically conservative. However, I am beginning to see the wisdom of passing a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Legislation in my household. This legislation would forbid parents from asking questions that, most likely, they really don’t want to know the answers too. Here are only a few examples that we have had recently:

Why is there dried on oatmeal on the wall…higher than my head? ( I still have no idea…)

Why are there “princess shoes” hidden in the light fixture? ( I did actually find out that my husband had hid them there, because he couldn’t stand the clippity-clopping sound all over the house anymore!)

What are the oily spots from on my bathroom mirror? (Turns out that even wound salve will work for a four year old if she wants to play “makeup”.)

What IS that smell? (Do I REALLY want to know?)

Who or what made tracks all across my clean floor? ( I can generally guess who, but the substance used to make the tracks often befuddles me…)

Why is there silly putty all over the inside of the washing machine? (WHY!!????)

Why can’t I get a cactus to thrive and virtually ever seed my children have ever misplaced has grown a fruit bearing giant? (Well, at least we know that the black thumb isn’t genetic…)

What IS so fascinating about the toilet? (….and then the added combination of toilet paper….or worse….bad…..very bad.)

Why are there eating utensils and dishes inside the pheasants cage? ( Etiquette classes for birds….?)

Why did you put nearly every piece of furniture we own at the bottom of the stairs? (Oh, it’s a trap for Daddy….well, of course!….How subtle…)

Why must children fill a pocket if they have one and then not empty it before putting it in the laundry? (It’s like a compulsion….must….fill ….empty…. pocket….!)

What is my egg beater doing in the BBQ, along with a pile of dirt and leaves? (Well, don’t YOU BBQ your pretend eggs?)

Where is my______________? (Again, do I REALLY want to know?)

The list goes on and on….sometimes I think its best when I just keep my mouth shut. Sure, there are definitely numerous times when questions need to be asked and answers given. I just find myself forgetting at times what it is to be a kid….they are thirsting for knowledge and they have their own unique ways of acquiring it. There is a great discourse about learning and creativity by Ken Robinson that was brought to my attention by a lovely woman that is also homeschooling her children. You can read her post and listen to the discourse by Ken Robinson here: http://homemakingwithheart.com/2013/01/10/embracing-the-dancer-within/

It reminded me of something I often tell my family….sometimes different is not bad….its just different! While questioning can help in the discovery process at times there are many, many other times that we just need to stand back and let them learn…they will often learn even more than if we “helped” them.